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Are all who are not called to monasticism called to married life?

No. Every person has a special calling. Marriage is a path of salvation for some, for others, it is monasticism, for others, it is consecration, and still yet for others, it is celibacy. Each of these four paths allows for each person to fulfill his/her social and emotional needs with others. For some, God alone suffices to fulfill that need. When God created Adam, he was celibate at first, while all the other creatures were given mates. Adam yearned for a mate similar to himself. Thus, God did not want to alienate Adam from that intimate affection of a life companion (Genesis 2:18), and sanctified holy matrimony for the expression of love, union, and procreation.

  

The monastic also needs to love and connect. However, this need is completely satisfied by his/her perpetual adoration and union with God. It is a calling and a gift. It is not meant for everyone. Actually, there are but a handful of people mentioned in the Holy Scriptures who were called to the life of celibacy, while most were called to the life of marriage. Both the celibate and the married could and should live in righteousness before the Lord. See the example of St. John the Baptist and his parents (Luke 1). St. John grew up to be an ascetic celibate. His parents were referred to in the Holy Scriptures as "righteous before God, walking in all the commandments and ordinances of the Lord blameless." Each person has a different calling. Responding to your personal call will come with the guidance and counsel of your spiritual father.

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