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With more time to self-evaluate and reflect, God has brought to my attention negative habits that have significantly impacted my spiritual and worldly life. These habits include being inconsistent, procrastinating, quick to quit, lacking time management, and having an all or nothing mentality. How can I get myself out of this hole that I have dug myself into over the years? What advice do the Holy Bible and Church Fathers give? Now, that I have time to sit in silence, I have become disappointed in myself as I continue to practice these habits unintentionally. How can I break these habits that have been deeply rooted? I am longing for the intimate relationship and peaceful prayer time I once had with our Lord.

"Do you not know that to whom you present yourselves slaves to obey, you are that one's slaves whom you obey, whether of sin leading to death, or of obedience leading to righteousness?" (Romans 6:16). Habits begin in one's thoughts, leading to consideration, leading to curiosity, which leads to acceptance, routine, practice, execution, and enslavement. This path that began with a thought leads one to succumb to the new reality, by which the devil convinces you that it was your idea, or even boldly, that it came from God. When at the crossroads and you begin to fight your way out of bad habits, initially, you may be apathetic with little strength and hope. Then, you may dream of a better existence, but you still cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel, so you just dream about it. Next, you want it and begin to work at it. Through hard, you persist and persevere until you overcome and are victorious. 
 
Breaking bad habits begins with spiritual growth, which helps you to form a character of godliness. Begin the process by pinpointing the negative habit, understanding its powerful cycle, altering its signals, controlling your context, replacing the negative habit with a positive one, taking responsibility for your words and actions, being persistent in your struggles against these bad habits, remaining determined through prayer, and being thankful to God for sustaining you and breaking the bonds of your enslavement. "And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart" (Galatians 6:9).
 
The Holy Bible and the Church Fathers welcome everyone desiring to build a relationship with the Lord. Begin a spiritual agenda with prayer and Bible study with the guidance of your spiritual/confession father. Since you are aware of your faults, anything opposite of those habits will open the door of your heart to the Lord. The things you mentioned seem simple, but the devil is clever. You allowed him to make no effort at all to distract you. You did the work for him. Fight him as soon as you feel yourself slipping back into any aspect of those routines. 
 
St. Augustine refused God for many years and through many tears shed by his faithful mother. When he repented, he re-channeled all of his love, energy, passion, and intellect toward God, and finally found peace and satisfaction for his soul: "Late have I loved you, beauty so old and so new: late have I loved you. And see, you were within and I was in the external world and sought you there, and in my unlovely state I plunged into those lovely created things which you made. You were with me, and I was not with you. The lovely things kept me far from you, though if they did not have their existence in you, they had no existence at all. You called and cried out loud and shattered my deafness. You were radiant and resplendent, you put to flight my blindness. You were fragrant, and I drew in my breath and now pant after you. I tasted you, and I feel but hunger and thirst for you. You touched me, and I am set on fire to attain the peace which is yours."