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I am so angry with my father because he is very sneaky and nosy. I found out that he went into my computer and went into my email account behind my back when I wasn't home. He read everything that I wrote to my priest, everything. I do not feel comfortable living in the same house with him anymore. Besides, this is not the first time my father has upset me like that. I love my dad and I know he loves me, but he has exceeded limits spying on me. I want to move out very badly, but I don't make enough money to support myself (I have a job, but I'm only 18 years old), and on top of all this, my mother, who I love very very much is stuck in between all of this. Many times before, this family was close to falling apart. I don't want this to happen, but I'm just so afraid that it might happen. I want this family to be close, but I just can't take my father anymore. I am seriously considering moving out on my own or with another family member. This will definitely cause very big problems both for me (because it will be very difficult for me to live on my own) and for my family. The only thing that's keeping me in this house is the fact that my family is supporting me financially. What should I do? I'm so mad and I don't know what to do. Please pray for me.

I understand your confusion and your struggle with what has happened. Maybe it was not the right thing to do, but I think you do know he had the good intention. Here, I want to ask you a question. Are you upset because your father has invaded your privacy or because he has read things you are ashamed of and did not want him to know about them? You do admit that your father loves you, so you know that he did this out of love for you because he is worried about you and wants to make sure you are not in trouble. Your pride is making you feel you cannot stand this house anymore. If you do really love your parents as you say, you  will never think of leaving the house. To say that financial support is the one thing holding you to your family shows your lack of love towards them. You say about your father "I cannot trust him anymore' what do you think your father would say about you? Can he trust you? What do you think is the role of the father in the household? Is it just financial obligation? Did you ask yourself what made your father check your email? Do you really think he is just a nosy person or is it that he sees things that makes him worried about you. If he had asked you direct questions would you have told him the truth?

Be honest with yourself before blaming your father for what he has done. Do not think of your father as your enemy, but someone who loves you and wants what is best for you. His main and sole motive is your well-being. You need to have a conversation with your father. Always have an open communication with him and take him as your friend. Make him feel he can trust you and love him as he loves you.
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