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After I confess and repent, I fall into despair and feel worse than I did before confessing. I go home feeling like I am the biggest sinner and not worthy to be God's child. I am very honest with my father of confession and with my Heavenly Father about my sins; and I thought confession is a type of cleansing. How can I overcome this feeling of self condemnation, guilt and frustration?
At confession, if we inadvertently forget to confess a sin to our spiritual father, are we still forgiven for that sin through the absolution given by the priest?
At what age should anyone start to confess and why?
Can a Coptic Orthodox member confess to a Greek Orthodox priest instead of a Coptic Orthodox priest?
Can a priest pray the absolution for a person who has committed a capital murder, given that that person did not surrender his actions to local authorities? Our understanding is that church is not a safe haven for criminals through confession. Also, is it a standard procedure that a priest denies the absolution to that person until he/she surrender to local authority? Another controversial issue is a priest praying absolution for a confessing person who has committed multiple adulteries without informing the spouse involved. Are we treating sins differently? Isn't all sins equal in the eyes of the Lord? The last controversy is the life of St. Mosses the Black. His pre-Christian life involved multiple capital crimes; he not only didn't surrender to authority, but also became the head of a monastery and a famous Christian figure.
Does the Holy Spirit come into the heart of the confession father during the sacrament of confession to:
Prevent him from saying or making ANY mistakes?
Prepare him to receive the confession, and guide him to give the right instructions only?
How does one go about finding a truly spiritual Father of Confession? Not all priests take the spiritual life as seriously as a person may desire. In such a case, should one look for a bishop, monk, or other to confess to?
I am 17 years old and I do not have a Father of Confession. I used to believe that I do not need a Father of Confession, and that I could just "confess" to God. But now I realize that is not enough. We do not have a full-time priest and I cannot think of any specific priest I am comfortable with. Is it alright to have a Father of Confession so far away because I know I will not see him as often as I would like. Do you have any advice for me?
I do not want to confess because I feel embarrassed. What can I do?
I find myself continually trying to recall sins that I have forgotten to confess. While doing so, I get wrapped up in sins that I have already confessed/repented of. Should I continue on this back thought brainstorming, or just try to move forward and not sin anymore?
I have been having Confession seriously since childhood. Recently, I have been struggling with a couple of issues. I tried listening to sermons and going on the Q & A online, but God did not send me His answer yet. (1) Priest Unavailability How can the church require people to confess every month or every two months but cannot because the priest is unavailable for Confession due to the large congregation and service? One will never go to church to take Communion, but find the priest is not available. It makes me question Confession. Should Confession be a spiritual tool not a Sacrament? (I am not the kind of a person that uses the Confession Father as Psychiatrist, calling him on every single issue). I am a very busy but organized person, seeking an explanation. (2) Priest’s Knowledge about People I find it hard to believe that priests forget everything you say after Confession. I am sure that they do forget some. I think they subconsciously place people in service and church factoring their prior knowledge of that person and what they hear in Confession. How can Confession be considered as a Sacrament if there are flaws in it? I will use Communion as example: There is no doubt that Communion is Jesus’ Body and Blood. But as for Confession, there are a lot of variables that are making me struggle to accept that it is a Sacrament. I love our priest and I know he is working so hard to the best of his ability. The purpose of these questions is to understand, not to complain. FYI—I never got a chance to discuss my issues with my Father Confessor because he is not available.
I have been wondering if confession on the phone is acceptable if your confessor father agrees to it.
I love my Father of confession dearly; and I feel he truly cares about me. However, because he works hard serving his people, he is usually exhausted when I go for confession. Also, I feel that he does not fulfill my needs and desire for spiritual guidance. I am afraid he might be offended if I tell him so or if I go to another priest at the same church. What should I do?
If I were to confess to any priest I would confess much more often to different priests. This way I would be confessing to God without having to worry about one particular priest knowing everything about my life. Also, if I were Catholic, I would confess more often because they confess behind a screen (probably to different priests every few weeks) without revealing themselves. Sticking to the same priest might help me avoid sins because of embarrassment and shame. However, firstly it is not a sin to regularly change priests. Secondly, fear and embarrassment from the confession priest are not good enough reasons to avoid sin. I would prefer to not sin because I fear God and love him and want to do what he has commanded. So, is it sinful to confess to different priests? Isn't the essence of confession to confess to God (in front of the priest) and not to confess to the priest?
In the Holy Gospel of St. John, it says, "
If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them, if you retain the sins of any, they are retained
" (John 20:23).
According to this biblical verse, suppose that the confessional father puts us under a test to see if we will make the mistake again, will our sin not be forgiven until we pass that test?
In the Mystery of Confession, must the priest understand the sin of the confessor in order for the latter to be forgiven even though the absolution is read?
Is it true that you can confess through e-mail? For example, if a priest or bishop you were comfortable with lived far away, could you e-mail them your "sins."
Is there any reference in the Holy Bible to confession as being necessary before partaking of Holy Communion? Also, is there a reference to confessing our sins to a priest?
I've lost my virginity and regret it everyday. I've decided that I am going to wait till marriage to have sex again and to start getting closer to my faith. I know the first step is to confess my sins, but I feel like I can't bring myself to do it because of the amount of shame I'll feel telling my father of confession. He has watched me grow up and has known me since I was a child. I feel like I will never find the courage to confess out of embarrassment and guilt. I also fear that I will repeat my sin again. What advice can you give?
Many denominations do not have "Confession" and do not believe it to be essential for their "Salvation." Why does the Coptic Orthodox Church believe in "Confession?"
Outside of confession with my spiritual father, is it okay to vent or express my emotions to others, such as to family or close friends, regarding situations in my life that are bothering me? Of course, I do not mean talking about my shortcomings, or a personal habit, since that should only be discussed with my spiritual father, but a situation that occurred at school, work, etc.? Is venting or talking to someone about things or situations in my life me complaining, not being thankful, and showing God that I do not look to all the good that He does for me everyday? What does the Bible say about venting, expressing, talking things out, and sharing thoughts and feelings towards a situation with others?
Recently, I have been trying to correct mistakes I have made in my life; and I know I have some sins to confess. I am a 19 year old male, a recent convert into Coptic Orthodoxy. I have confessed in the past, but feel very scared to confess again; because I feel I have done many bad sins and I am afraid of my father of confession's reaction. I think I may even need to confess something that I have done before my baptism. Can Your Grace give me some advice to overcome this fear and confess? Does Your Grace recommend any books?
Two years ago, my friend practiced oral sex, but didn't confess it. What is the church's view on that? What will happen to my friend if he does not confess his sin?
What happens if I repent for my sins but don't take the next step of confessing?
When I confess, for example, if I had watched something inappropriate, I would tell my father of confession, "I watched inappropriate things," or if I swear, for example, instead of saying, 'I swear,' I would just say, "I said inappropriate things," but I will not specifically state what it was. Does that count; like is that fine or am I supposed to specifically state what it was?
When two priest differ in their opinion on the same issue concerning a major decision in life (the choice of your partner in marriage), who do you believe; and who of the two is God speaking through? Can God say two different things to two different people concerning the same issue?
Why do I have to confess to a priest? Isn't it enough to confess directly to God?
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